Welcome to www.arfahumar.com

The place where I share my thoughts and ideas.

Welcome to www.arfahumar.com

The place where I share my thoughts and ideas.

welcome to www.arfahumar.com

The place where I share my thoughts and ideas.

welcome to www.arfahumar.com

The place where I share my thoughts and ideas.

welcome to www.arfahumar.com

The place where I share my thoughts and ideas.

Friday, 17 April 2015

Ingin mencari penawar bagi masalah sakit lutut anda?

Adakah anda menari-cari penawar untuk masalah sakit lutut yang dialami? Bila sakit lutut menyerang, pelbagai perkara menjadi rumit dan timbul pula pelbagai masalah. Oleh itu, ramai yang mencari penawar untuk sakit lutut.

Saya mencadangkan anda cuba membaca info dan tips yang dikongsikan di sebuah blog yang fokusnya khas untuk membantu mereka yang mengalami masalah sakit lutut. Anda boleh melawat blog tersebut di link seperti di bawah:

Blog untuk tips dan info sakit lutut - www.penawarsakitlutut.com/blog

Website untuk mendapatkan penawar sakit lutut anda - www.penawarsakitlutut.com

Facebook Page untuk pelbagai info mengenai sakit lutut - www.facebook.com/PenawarSL

Semoga anda akan memperoleh pelbagai manfaat dari website tersebut. InsyaAllah.

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Wednesday, 4 February 2015

10 tips to ease our children's first day of school

Assalamualaikum and may we all be blessed by Allah always,InsyaAllah. MasyaAllah, it's already February of 2015...how fast does time flies?? For a lot of parents (me included) the first month of this year has been filled with anxiety and worries as our precious little child(ren) went off to school for the first time.

I sent off all my 3 boys on their first day of school...well, pre-school actually; for the first time ever this year. My children has thus far been spending 24 hours a day at home with me as I am a full-time stay-at-home-mom or SAHM. Having never been with anyone else other than me, you can understand the kind of anxiety and thoughts I had just thinking about how they would react to being in an environment that they have never been in and being surrounded by people they don't know.

Will they be crying non-stop at school? Will they be able to communicate with their teacher if they need anything? Will they be able to blend in with their school-mates and make new friends? Will they be bullied by other kids or scolded by their teachers??? OMG?? So may situations playing around in my mind... 

All in all, the first few weeks of school went well really. Actually it is has been nearly a month that my kids went to pre-school and so far it has been good. It wasn't as horrific as I first imagined it would be and not nearly as dramatic as the scenes I imagined in my head. The important thing is that as a mother (and/or father) we have to know what to expect and how to handle each situation that arises. Also, adequate preparation is utmost important. And everything will InsyaAllah, be smooth with a few simple and easy steps I followed and here I will share them with you in the hopes that they might be able to help you too.

How to make our child's first day of school (much much) easier and drama-free??

1. Let your child know in advance that they will be going to school and explain to them what they will be doing and what to expect at school. Normally children feel scared about going to school because its a new environment for them. It is our job as parents to explain to them that school is a place to learn and gather knowledge. Tell them well beforehand that you will be sending them to school so that they are mentally prepared.

2. Make a few visits to their school in advance and show them that this will be their school. Make an effort to visit or just drive in front of their school-to-be and show them that that is where they will be going to soon. Point out the toys or any "cool" stuffs they have there that you kids would like. For example, point out to them that their school is beautiful..with pictures of mickey mouse painted on the walls (if they have it) and also point out that they will be able to play on the swing set, slide or any other games they have there.

3. Share your experience and tell them that is is a normal process and that they shouldn't be scared. Tell them the your experience at school (but only the good ones ok!) and tell them all the fun stuffs they can expect at school like drawing, painting, singing and playing with their friends. Tell them that it is a process that everyone goes through, even mummy, daddy, aunties and uncles they know. Assure that they will be fine and that the teachers are all nice and kind (as this is what normally worries them most).

4. Countdown to the days that they will start school. A year before you plan to send them to school, tell your kids that next year they will be going to school. About 6 months before going to school, remind them again. 2 months before going to school tell them that next month they will be going to school. Repeat at one month, 3 weeks and 2 weeks. After that make a chart or mark off each of the days left on the calendar with them so that they can see that the day they will start school is getting nearer. This way, they will understand and know in advance the exact day they will start school and can prepare themselves better.

5. If they have to wake up earlier than they normally would, start a routine a few days in advance. Kids need routines in their life. If they normally wake up late and suddenly have to wake up one day very early to go to school, you will have a hell of a time trying to get them to wake up and get ready for school. The best thing is to start waking them up an hour earlier than they would normally, about 2 weeks before they start going to school. Keep waking them up earlier and earlier gradually so that they can slowly get used to waking up early. 

6. When at school, point out all the great things they have at school. When you send them to school for the first day, usually the teachers encourage the parents to be there with the kids. Upon arrival, try to find and point out to your children what great and exciting things they have there. Point out all the story books they will be able to read, point out the paintings on the wall that they will soon do, point out the lovely teachers who are kind and nice to them. After their first day is over and you get home, remind them of the fun activities they did at school. Remind them about the songs they sang, the games they played and the things they learnt. 

7. When its time to leave say good bye and tell them that you love them. Always say good-bye to your child before leaving them at school. NEVER leave quietly without them knowing! Tell them that you love them, that they will have fun at school and that you need to leave, but not to worry because you will be back to get them once their school has finished. Assure them with lost of hugs and kisses but do not scold them and be irritated if they cry or make a scene. Keep talking and assuring them that they will be fine and that there is nothing to be scared about. They might cry and be clingy but be firm. 

8. Do NOT linger. Leave immediately! Once you decide to leave them at school, just leave. Don't keep procrastinating and keep coming back even if your child cries and makes a scene. Be assured that the teachers have lots of experience with these sort of things. They can handle it no matter how bad a tantrum your child might throw at them. You have to be strong and try to ignore their cries (I know how hard this can be, but believe me, this is the best way). For some reason, children are usually a lot stronger and braver when their parents are not around and tend to calm down better when they don't see they parents.

9. Control our emotions, keep calm and always have a smile on your face. Your children's reaction will mimic your reaction as well. If their parents are calm and always smiling and happy, the children will tend to be much calmer. But, if the parents are themselves scared and hesitant, the child will feel insecure and will tend to be scared. No matter what our children's reactions are, we ourselves have to be calm at all times. Deal with whatever happens calmly and in a positive manner.  

10. At the end of the day ask them how their day went and make them feel good about going to school. Ask them how their day went and what activities they did in school. Make them feel good by saying that "wowww...so clever" or as we Malaysians say it "bestnyerrrrrrr". hehe. Make them excited to go to school again tomorrow. Point out the great things they can look forward to tomorrow.

AND...repeat again and again until your children has gotten used to the routine of going to school each day, InsyaAllah. One important thing is to make sure you do the same thing everyday so that your children can develop a routine that they can follow.

I hope these tips will be able to help someone out there who going through the same same experience. May everything go well for you and your children. Hopefully everything will be easy and calm and your children will be able to start their learning experience happily and excitedly. Most of all, remember that whatever comes, its a normal process and that you are not alone.

All the best! All the good things are from Allah and any inadequacy is from me. Have a wonderful day. InsyaAllah.

Thursday, 22 January 2015

My Caliph Buskers's AJL29 obsession

Truly and honestly, I've never been a fan of the Malaysian music scenes. I don't really know malay songs nor the artists. BUT (a very big but here...mind the pun) after watching one of the performance of AJL29, I am so TOTALLY addicted to one of the performance that night.

The performance I'm talking about is of course the one done by MOJO and Caliph Buskers with the song Romancinta. First and foremost, I would like to state that I have NEVER heard this song before, nor do I know who MOJO (or caliph buskers) is. Also, I didn't even watched the AJL while it was being showed live on national TV. I only read about this one performance that won the Best Performance for the night on the morning after, when it trended like crazy on my social network app. People were talking about it left and right and the name Caliph Buskers kept on coming up.

Thus, with my curiosity being poked at repeatedly, I searched on YouTube for AJL29 + Caliph Buskers. My was I suprised!!!

Why the big suprise?? Actually, the in the first few seconds of the video, I could only hear the vocalist's voice and band playing without being able to see their face as it was darkened. But the first time the camera focused on the vocalist, it was totally unexpected. He was sooooo not the face I imagined that would go with the voice I heard. I was expecting a typical all-in-package that you usually get with rock singers singing on AJL. The fact that this guy was blind was the first thing that hit me. I know there are a few blind artists out there who actually do make it big such as Andrea Bocelli for example. But this guy has the looks of a typical street performer one would see around town and near shopping complexes. And here he was singing on AJL!!! And his voice~~~ MasyaAllah!!!

There this guy was (his name is Azmi Saat, by the way) blasting his vocals on stage, in front of tens of thousands of people and the crowd is cheering like crazy....and the crazy thing is he appears totally relaxed...expressionless even. He is singing with the vocals of a pro rock star but he's just standing there and his expression is of utter calmness. I imagine it's just like how I would look like singing Old McDonald Had A Farm to my little kids. hehe. He's not making pained expressions on his face nor bending down (or up) to hit the notes like a typical singer would but he's just standing there, singing.

Anyway..enough talk. Lets see the video that I've been totally obsessed about shall we? hehe. Hope you enjoy it as much as I do!

Friday, 30 May 2014

Tips mudah nak potong kuku anak-anak

Assalamualaikum semua. Salam Jumaat. Antara benda sunat untuk kita lakukan dihari Jumaat ini ialah memotong kuku. Arfah memang akan cuba untuk potong kuku sendiri dan anak-anak setiap Jumaat selagi boleh. Iye lah buat benda biasa macam ni tapi boleh dapat pahala sunat sebab potong di hari Jumaat. Jangan sia-sia kan pahala mudah macam ni. hehe

Arfah tahu...nak potong kuku anak-anak memang susah. Derang taknak duduk diam-diam dan macam memang tak suka memotong kuku. Jadi hari ini Arfah nak sharekan satu tips yang Arfah selalu buat bila nak potong kuku anak-anak Arfah.

Bila potong kuku anak Arfah, Arfah akan tinggalkan sikit di hujung tu supaya kuku tak terpotong sepenuhnya. Means, kuku tu akan masih bersambung sikit je di hujung macam dalam gambar di bawah ni.

Sebabnya Arfah tinggal kuku tu supaya tak terpotong habis ialah supaya anak Arfah tadi tu boleh cabut sendiri kuku dia. For some reason, anak-anak Arfah memang suka betul cabut kuku sendiri bila dah dipotong macam ni. Memang khusyuk aje derang mencabut kuku derang sendiri. 

Sometimes, ada pula aksi orang lain yang cuba mencabut kuku orang lain pula. hehe. Memang kelakar bila insiden macam tu terjadi. Kita pun tak tahu nak react macam mana. 

Anyway, ini saja entry Arfah buat kali ini. Tak panjang, tapi semoga tips Arfah untuk mudah potong kuku anak-anak ni boleh membantu para ibu yang ada masalah anak tak nak potong kuku tu. 

Sampai di sini aja, yang baik-baik itu dari Allah dan segala cacat cela itu datangnya dari Arfah sendiri. 

Lots of Love,
Arfah Umar

Wednesday, 28 May 2014

Luahan hati seorang suami beristerikan pengedar sah shaklee

Shaklee punya penangan , kalau tak betul gaya silap haribulan boleh bergaduh suami isteri.
Mana tidaknya si suami balik rumah tengok isteri asyik main telefon dan menghadap komputer sahaja. Si isteri cuba nak terangkan, suami pula tak nak dengar. Akhirnya mula masam muka.

Jom saksikan video luahan hati si suami pengedar shaklee di bawah ini.

Itulah dia, luahan hati ini ditulis sendiri oleh suami Arfah. Pada yang lain tu sebelum buat shaklee tu mintalah izin dan restu dari suami dahulu. Walaupun niat baik nak membantu keluarga, tapi tanggungjawab sebai isteri dan ibu janganlah kita baikan. Pada para suami pula harap dapat memahami keadaan isteri. Kami semua buat ni untuk membantu keluarga dan supaya mendapat lebih masa bersama nanti. Jadi para suami, redhakanlah usaha kami ini ya.

Tuesday, 27 May 2014

Bantu anak hilangkan sembelit dengan Mealshake Shaklee

Sebelum ni Arfah ada pernah sharekan cara-cara untuk bantu anak-anak yang mengalami masalah sembelit. Semua teknik-teknik yang dalam itu ialah cara yang menggunakan bahan-bahan di rumah tanpa ubat-ubatan. Ini sebenarnya lebih selamat berbanding menggunakan ubat yang mungkin akan mendatangkan kesan sampingan kepada anak-anak yang sembelit tu.

Kalau ada yang tidak tahu bagaimana nak memastikan samada anak kita sembelit atau tidak, boleh baca artikel ini tentang sembelit dari Baby Center Malaysia.

OK. Sebenarnya Arfah tergerak untuk tulis post ini harini kerana ada yang bertanya pada Arfah bagaimana nak bantu anak-anak yang sembelit dengan menggunakan Mealshakes Shaklee. Sebenarnya jawapan kepada soalan ini tak sama buat semua anak-anak.

Mengapa tak sama?? Ini adalah kerana cara untuk memberi Mealshakes berbeza mengikut umur anak kita. Apa bezanya? Bezanya ialah kalau anak yang bawah setahun memang TIDAK DIGALAKKAN untuk diberi Mealshake (atau apa-apa juga supplement lain mahupun ubat sebenarnya. Sistem penghadaman mereka belum lagi mampu untuk memproses bahan-bahan seperti itu. Manakala anak-anak yang bawah 2 tahun tidak digalakkan untuk diberi Mealshakes setiap hari. Atas 2 tahun dah boleh mula beri Mealshake setiap hari mengikut sukatan yang betul.

Kalau anda ingin mencuba Mealshake untuk atasi masalah sembelit anak-anak anda, sila hubungi Arfah melalui Whatsapp, SMS atau Telefon di 012-592 7912 atau email kepada sayanak.sayanak@gmail.com. Insya Allah Arfah akan bantu anda sebaik mungkin.

Lots of Love,
Arfah Umar

Cara menaikkan selera makan anak dengan Mealshake

asArfah ada seorang anak berumur 2 tahun++ ni yang sangat susah bab nak bagi dia makan. Selera makan dia ni macam sangat limited. Ada time-time yang dia cuma nak minum susu aje seharian...langsung tak nak jamah apa-apa makanan. Nak bagi makan nasi dengan kuah aje pun puas pujuk, kejar dan buat pelbagai aksi. Sayur dengan buah-buah tu takyah cakap lahhhhh...langsung tak nak sentuh.

Lebih kurang camni lah rupa anak saya tu time nak bagi makan
(Gambar hiasan dari Google)

Nak dijadikan cerita, pada hujung tahun 2013, kami sekeluarga bersama-sama keluarga ipar Arfah pergi melancong ke Vietnam. Lepas lebih kurang dua hari di sana, anak-anak Arfah kene cirit birit dan muntah-muntah. Allahuakbar, kesian sangat tengok derang...masuk makanan aje keluar balik. Tambah anak arfah yang kerap sembelit tu...lagiiiii kesian. Sebelum tu pun dia memang dah kurus. Lepas kena cirit-birit tu terus jadi kurus kering...sampai nampak semua tulang rusuk dia. Siap adik Arfah cakap dah ala kanak-kanak Somalia. 

Semasa anak-anak Arfah cirit-birit tu Arfah beri derang Mealshake Shaklee. Tak susah pun, campur aje dengan susu. Sebab Arfah beri Mealshakes tu ialah kerana takut derang tak cukup nutrisi sebab asyik muntah-muntah aje and taknak makan sangat. Tak ada selera agaknya sebab tak sihat.

Alhamdulillah, slow-slow derang pulih dari "traveller's diarrhea" (seperti yang di-diagnose oleh doktor sebaik pulang ke Malaysia) and dah tak cirit-cirit or muntah-muntah lagi. Antara yang saya rasa sangat membantu ialah campuran segelas air dengan satu sudu madu.

Tapi setelah baik pun semua anak-anak saya jadi kurus kering. Sedih saya tengok anak-anak sendiri. Maka bermulalah misi saya untuk naikkan semula berat badan mereka.

Sebagai ikhtiar untuk naikkan selera makan mereka, saya konsisten beri Mealshake kepada anak-anak setiap hari. Dan Alhamdulillah memang selera mereka naik. Banyak derang makan dengan berseleranya.

Even anak saya no 2 yang susah nak makan tu pun bertambah-tambah selera dia. Sometimes dia yang makan paling banyak. hehe

Setelah lebih kurang 3 bulan konsisten memberi Mealshake kepada anak-anak, ini hasilnya...

Di sebelah kiri ialah anak saya yang no. 2 tu selepas kena cirit birit tu dan di sebelah kanan pula gambarnya setelah lebih kurang 3 bulan dengan Mealshake. Pipi dah mula tembam, tangan dah berisi, tulang rusuk dah tak nampak sangat dan perut dah boroi. hehehe.

Sebagai seorang ibu, antara kerisauan utama Arfah ialah kalau anak-anak tak cukup makanan (actually zat dan nutrisi dari makanan tu sebenarnya). Bila anak-anak dah tembam dan berisi macam ni memang rasa lega~

Kalau anda ada anak-anak yang kurus sangat sebab tak ada selera makan, jangan risau. Hubungi Arfah melalui Whatsapp, SMS atau telefon terus ke 012-592 7912 atau email ke sayanak.sayanak@gmail.com dan dapatkan Mealshakes untuk anak anda sekarang. Insya Allah Mealshake ini mampu membantu naikan selera makan anak anda.

Lots of Love,
Arfah Umar

Friday, 23 May 2014

AWAS jika anda seorang muslimah yang suka solat di saf hadapan

Arfah terniat nak buat entry ni sebab ada musibah yang berlaku dihadapan mata Arfah sendiri semasa tengah solat di saf hadapan di bahagian wanita. Benda ni sangat selalu kita lakukan dan pandang remeh aje tetapi bila dah terjadi, memang rasa fobia.

Benda apakah itu? Perkara itu ialah meletakkan handbag di hadapan kita (bagi saf pertama) di penghadang untuk kawasan jemaah wanita

Arfah memang akan letakkan beg Arfah dihadapan ketika solat. Ianya adalah supaya boleh nampak kalau ada orang cuba mencuri beg itu atau ambil apa-apa di dalam beg tersebut. 

Tapi beberapa hari yang lepas, Arfah tengah solat berjemaah di masjid. Di masjid ini kawasan wanita di bahagikan dengan menggunakan curtain sahaja seperti kebanyakan masjid yang Arfah pernah pergi. Dan seperti biasa para jemaah muslimah rata-rata meletakkan beg mereka di hadapan..iaitu di bawah/tepi curtain bahagian dalam kawasan jemaah muslimah.

Imam mulakan solat dan semua orang solat seperti biasa. Tengah kami bersolat tu Arfah perasan ada orang tengah merangkak di luar curtain pembahagi itu (di kawasan tengah-tengah curtain itu see-through. Jadi boleh nampak orang di luar kawasan solat wanita) tapi Arfah ingat mungkin orang itu nak menghormati orang yang tengah bersolat jadi tak fikir panjang. 

Rupa-rupanya orang itu menarik handbag salah seorang jemaah muslimah di saf hadapan dari luar curtain pembahagi itu!!! 

Ini lebih kurang contoh modus operandi yang dilakukan oleh suspek.
(gambar diambil dari http://respeksgroup.blogspot.com/)

Sebab kami masih bersolat, semua cuma mampu teruskan bersolat. Tetapi selesai sahaja memberi salam dua orang jemaah muslimah cepat-cepat angkat curtain dan keluar untuk cari orang yang mencuri handbag tadi. Tapi malangnya, orang itu dah sempat melarikan diri kerana orang tengah solat jadi tiada yang menghalang dia untuk larikan diri.

Kasihan makcik yang handbagnya itu dicuri orang. Sekelip mata hilang handphone, wallet (termasuk duit, IC, lesen, kad kredit, dsb) dan kunci kereta yang diletakkan di dalam beg. 

Astaghfirullah. Tak sangka dalam masjid pun ada orang sanggup nak mencuri!! Arfah pulak rasa geram. Boleh tu ambil kesempatan semasa orang tengah berjemaah untuk mencuri. Semoga Allah berikan orang itu balasan yang setimpal dengan perbuatannya tersebut. 

Sejak kejadian itu Arfah memang rasa fobia nak bawak handbag bersama ketika bersolat. Kalau ada bawa beg pun Arfah akan keluarkan benda-benda penting macam wallet, handfon dan kunci kereta. Wallet tinggalkan aja dalam kereta dan handfon serta kunci kereta itu letakkan dalam poket. Kalau tak pun letakkan atas sejadah tapi di tengah-tengah sejadah...bajet tempat yang atas sedikit dari tempat yang kita akan letakkan lutut semasa sujud dan semasa duduk antara dua sujud atau tahiyyat. 

Apa-apa pun mari kita ambil iktibar dari kejadian ini ya kawan-kawan. Lepas ni kalau solat di masjid, lebih baik tinggalkan barang berharga di tempat lain yang selamat. Semoga kita semua dijauhi dari musibah seperti ini. Nauzubillahhiminzaalik.

Yang baik-baik itu dari Allah dan segala cacat-cela itu datangnya daripada saya sendiri.

Lots of Love,
Arfah Umar